Posts by Emma Hart
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Up Front: Let's Talk About Sex, Baby, in reply to Jackie Clark,
Reading the work of these women (I haven't read any male ones)
I'm not familiar with any straight men who sex-blog the way that, say, Girl on the Net does. If anyone does, please for linkies thnx. Through her I have found the painfully funny Things I've Done to Impress Women, but that's different, that's relationship- or dating-blogging. Mostly. This (slightly NSFW) probably counts as sex-blogging, but it's in that very 'look what an idiot I was' way, a sort of clownishness that maybe makes talking about male sexual experience more acceptable.
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Hard News: Good Intentions, in reply to Craig Ranapia,
disabled people as handy for "the jobs you don't have time for -- like cleaning out the coffee machine"
I read this, and said a Bad Word. That's my daughter you're talking about.
My son's been planning to have a Gap Year next year, and I can't help but worry that he won't be able to find work, knowing how dispiriting that is. The prospects for my daughter? So much worse than that.
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Hard News: It's not funny because it's…, in reply to Steve Barnes,
If one eats so much that one becomes overweight it could be suggested that one is greedy.
Steve, if this is your depth of understanding of how human metabolism works, can I politely ask that you shut up now? And perhaps find an issue that matters to talk about?
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Hard News: The Music for Occasions, in reply to Russell Brown,
But yeah, it wasn't meant to be solely about funeral playlists. I'mma have a PARTY on Saturday.
Both at once. This played at my 21st. I'd like it to play at my funeral. (Though that will largely be down to my Musical Director and my overall Artistic Director. He threatened Whitesnake, hence the appointment of a Musical Director.)
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Hard News: The Music for Occasions, in reply to JacksonP,
Anything by Jeff Buckley has a 'gone too soon' feel to it, but I've always thought his version of Hallelujah would be good.
Oh, my mother's funeral. My brothers all heavying the celebrant to make absolutely sure that the version of Hallelujah that got played was the Leonard Cohen, not... well, there were some adjectives applied to Buckley. But it was what she would have wanted. She had that, and "Fields of Gold". A year and a half later, and I still can't listen to either song.
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Hard News: OGB Update, in reply to Isabel Hitchings,
There were nametags in Wellington last year
Huh. We'll add that to the list of Things I Don't Remember From That Night.
There better be Tweetage, you people.
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Up Front: You're Telling My Child What, Now?, in reply to Islander,
NO BENEFITS
Islander, when was this? I ask because my mother received the Widow's Benefit on the deaths of both her husbands, and I thought it had been continuously available since it was introduced - in 1911.
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Up Front: You're Telling My Child What, Now?, in reply to Heather Gaye,
Heather: I was constructing my initial comment in the light of the idea of marriage that Grossman is putting forward - that it's forever, one partner for life. In that light, a marriage carries far more weight than a de facto relationship. Personally, I think the thing that makes the biggest difference in a relationship breakup is quite simply whether or not there are children.
I was twenty-one when I got married. I think the thing that made my divorce more traumatic than that relationship breakdown would have been if we hadn't married was that other people's expectations had changed. Particularly our parents'. There was cultural baggage around our having got married. There was more of a sense of having failed. Having done both, I really do think it's easier to extract yourself from a failed 'live in' relationship than a marriage, all other things being equal.
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Up Front: You're Telling My Child What, Now?, in reply to Suzanne Shirley,
I hope that if your kids happen to fall madly in love with their first sexual partners and decide that their life's happiness is best served by a committed monogomous relationship you will respect their choices.
Absolutely. And of course any relationship you've seen in action is different from a theoretical one. But my gut reaction, based on my own personal experiences of how long it took me to discover that I wasn't naturally straight-vanilla-monogamous and the people who got hurt along the way, would be "oh god, really, are you sure?" Which is not how parents are ever expected to react.
I have a dear friend who has been married to her high school sweetheart for twenty years, and they're very happy. I know it can work, but the odds of getting it right first time? Not high, surely.
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Hard News: OGB Update, in reply to Phil fryer,
I would LOVE to. So much. However. All other logistical considerations aside, the 12th is my partner's birthday.
Come see me at LATE in September instead.
Stephen: excellent, I was hoping. I'll send you an email.