Posts by Lilith __

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  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Jackie Clark,

    Yes, Lilith, you’re one of the people I do look forward to meeting.

    You too, Jackie! I do occasionally make it to Auckland to see family, and maybe we could meet up then.

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Carol Stewart,

    being accountable as a pseudonym is not the same thing as being accountable IRL.

    Real life has built-in filters that the internet doesn’t. A conversation you have in the real world with 3-dimensional people is tailored to fit that group. You wouldn’t say the same things to work colleagues as you would to close friends or to family. And after you say something in real life the words only exist, if they exist at all, in the memory of the people who heard them.

    While at times it might feel here on PAS that it’s just a roomful of friends chatting, anybody could be reading, either now or at any time in the future. Your Mum, your ex, your kids, your potential employer. Those of you who blog and comment here under your real names have my total admiration, but for a variety of reasons that’s not for all of us.

    I wouldn’t have shared a fraction of the things I have here if I’d had to use my real name. That doesn’t mean I’m not sincere and that I don’t stand behind everything I’ve said. This pseudonym isn’t to disguise me from you all, only from the world at large.

    I was about to say I look forward to meeting a lot more of you in the flesh but on second thoughts I will avoid that phrase. Offline is what I mean!

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education,

    Well, it didn’t take long for some people to suspect who I am behind this pseudonym

    I’m pretty sure Max is actually Willy Wonka.

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Lucy Stewart,

    “who are you t- oh, right”

    I never guessed that I’d get so attached to all you folk and that a collision with RL would ever happen!

    And those I have met in person (however briefly) are even more awesome than your pixellated presence had me believe. :-)

    ETA:

    I don’t think I’ve got more obscene. Depending upon one’s definition of obscene.

    LOL!

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Megan Wegan,

    I had no idea that wasn’t your real name.

    It’s a nickname I was known by in a particular group of friends some years ago, so I guess that helps me feel that it *is* a real name, just not the only one :-)

    ETA: and I don't mind PAS folk knowing my ordinary name, it's not a secret, I just don't want it googlable as I have a professional presence on the web.

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education,

    I've become deeply attached to my pseudonym! Initially it was what I scrambled to type because I wanted to say some stuff that was important to me but that I didn't want to be googlable to my name. And although some here know my everyday identity as well, I'm so used to living in the pseudonym in the PAS context that when Emma invited me round to hers for a party I introduced myself to people as Lilith because that just seemed less confusing. Is that weird?

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,

    I wonder how many Tai Chi practitioners realize that to increase their ki power, instead of “making hands like clouds”, they could “fuck like rabbits”

    Fortunately, many tai chi practitioners believe these "Taoist sexual practices" are a distortion and misapplication of Taoist principles.

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Lucy Stewart,

    Mmm, chocolate.

    That’s the most reasonable thing anybody’s said all day! Something we can all believe in. :-)

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to James Butler,

    On the contrary, I think animals, from their perspective at least, generally have sex because it is pleasurable, with propagation of the species being the aim of the genome, rather than the individual animal.

    This is supported by research. Also it’s one thing to say that reproduction occurs because of sex and quite another to say that all sex occurs for reproduction.

    The majority of sex acts in the animal world not only don’t result in conception but can’t do so, for solid biological reasons. It’s one thing to say there are evolutionary reasons for our having a sex drive and quite another to try and justify all sex acts from an evolutionary standpoint.

    ETA: an example: female-female pair bonding is common among Japanese macaques. When the males come calling they not only have to fight among themselves for the privilege, but often have to battle it out with the chosen female's regular (female) partner, who would rather they didn't.

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

  • Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,

    Yeah, you’re the big cheese in Buddhism but never got laid in your life. Hard to really expect a different outcome than them having views that are kind of whack. As with Catholicism, what the Dalai Lama says, and what the “folllowers” do are always going to be out of synch, when the main dude’s dick gets no action.

    Ben, I'm a bit disturbed that you're so sarcastic about Buddhism. As a good friend of mine who is Buddhist is always telling me, it's not a religion, it's a spiritual practice. They don't have a deity. And it has many varieties, of which Tibetan Buddhism is only one. Personally, I have a lot of time for people who advocate tolerance and non-violence and self-improvement. Surely we could do a lot worse?

    Among Christian denominations I also have a lot of time for Quakers as they (generally) are passionate about social justice and good works.

    Myself, I am happily atheist, and pacifist and a liberal humanist. And a vegetarian! :-)

    Dunedin • Since Jul 2010 • 3895 posts Report

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