Posts by Emma Hart
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Up Front: Something Chronic, in reply to Hebe,
Good timing Hebe: I appear to be on the brink of a relapse. Which means, of course, that I should be very careful with myself for the next week or so, and SlutWalk is Sunday.
What happened to the obnoxious Peter from Dundee? Did Emma get him whacked?
Yeah, I can totally do this. Remember that guy from China who said I was raising my kids wrong? Haven't seen him around lately either, have you?
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Hard News: Disrupting the Television, in reply to Lucy Stewart,
I'd flatly refuse to watch it in the same building as my parents, if it ever came to it.
Our 16 yo son watches GoT, but not with us, by himself. I'm not really happy with the concept of "gratuitous sex": that buys into the idea that you can only have sexual content if it's somehow 'justified', if it's made acceptable by necessity.
Very, VERY NSFW-ly, Violet Blue has a couple of articles about sex in GoT: here and here.
Storytelling – whether crime, horror, fantasy, sci-fi ar anything that’s worth a damn contains sex. Period. Not just predictable sex tropes: sex that is far more redeeming, ethically errant, character-flawing and essential as all other storytelling elements.
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Hard News: Where do you get yours?, in reply to Russell Brown,
I keep expecting you to say where you get your porn from ;-)
After dinner. I'm more than happy to go into that, I just don't have time right now.
Though. As far as 'native guides' go (y'know, those people you trust to find stuff in the vastness of the internet that you'll probably like) Violet Blue (NSFW) is excellent. Every week she'll do an Eye Candy piece, where she'll pick a theme and link to a bunch of porn around that theme. Like this.
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Hard News: Where do you get yours?, in reply to Hebe,
Those 30 boxes have sat in storage untouched for three years
I regularly weed our bookshelves. Rejects go out to the garage. If they can sit out there for about six months without me wanting them, they can go.
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Hard News: Where do you get yours?, in reply to Bart Janssen,
Which is one reason I love my iPad.
I'll use that for stuff I would previously have got through the library. But things I want to re-read, or stuff like the Jim Butcher series that's currently being read by three members of my family, I'll buy in dead-tree format.
Also, I can't use the iPad in the bath.
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Hard News: Where do you get yours?, in reply to Dave Patrick,
For books, it has to be the Book Depository
My book-buying has alarmingly increased since I started using The Book Depository. What I want is always in stock, and cheap, and delivered for free and very promptly. Now I need to buy bookshelves...
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Adding as a comment here a post I just made at The Lady Garden:
It’s not often that your opposition tells you exactly what you should do. Even less often it turns out to be a good idea. But, and I can’t really believe I’m saying this, John Key is right.
Yesterday he was asked his opinion on marriage equality. Turns out he doesn’t have one. He’s put as much thought and sense of personal ethics into this as he did the Springbok Tour.
He said he didn’t think there was any “clamour” for gay marriage in New Zealand and it was not on the government’s agenda, NZ Newswire reports.
Got it? No clamour. If we want marriage equality, we need to make some noise about it. And given how often this issue actually makes an impression in the media in New Zealand, we need to do it NOW.
Those in favour of same-sex marriage outnumber those opposed nearly two to one. Yet you’d never guess it from the amount of noise we make. This is our chance to make ourselves heard on an issue that, apparently, our Prime Minister has no strong views about. David Shearer and the Greens are in favour. Peter Dunne wouldn’t comment.
So let’s clamour. Make some noise. Tweet. Facebook. Say you support marriage equality in New Zealand. Use the #clamour hash-tag. Write to Key. Tweet him (@johnkeypm). Go to the marriage equality website and sign up. If you’re in Wellington, Queer the Night is tonight. Go be clamoury there.
I don’t often get hectory. But this isn’t a lot to ask. If you’re in favour of marriage equality, if you think it matters, say something. How can we expect schoolyard bullies to treat us as equals when our government doesn’t?
One thing Key has admitted: there are no legitimate arguments against gay marriage. Just a lazy feckless government that doesn’t give a shit. It’s up to us to change their minds. Who else is there?
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Up Front: Making It Better, in reply to nzlemming,
See, I'd just be all "pics or it never happened" on yo ass. ;-)
You know I call bluffs, right?
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Up Front: Making It Better, in reply to James Butler,
they also make us think that we can make assumptions based on behaviour, appearance etc. to "guess" someone's orientation.
Cf when a celebrity Comes Out, and even quite liberal people will say, "Yeah, like we didn't know that." (The most recent I can think of is Zachary Quinto.) What they're saying is, "I think I can tell when someone is gay because they look gay, or act gay."
Yeah. No you can't. Shut up, you're Not Helping.
On the up side, both my partner and our friend Shaun have had multiple occasions where, because they're referred to their partner as their partner rather than their wife, co-workers have assumed they're in a same-sex relationship. Complicated for Shaun because his partner's name is Teri.
Also... okay, this is a little awkward for me to talk about. I'm going to try to be unspecific without being incomprehensible. In the last couple of months I've told a number of people, mostly in one-on-one conversations, that I'm now in an Unconventional Relationship. By far the dominant reaction has been not exactly negative, but people have used language they would never use if I was telling them I was in a new vanilla-monogamous relationship. And these are fairly liberal open-minded people. I've found it so demoralising I've actually just stopped telling people. It's good gossip: they'll tell each other.
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Up Front: Making It Better, in reply to Ian Dalziel,
"How dare you assume I'm heterosexual"
This is one of my specific 'how do we get there's. Watch your language. We do have an utterly conditioned basic assumption that everyone we meet is heterosexual-monogamous-vanilla, and it comes through in our language.