Posts by giovanni tiso
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Hard News: Introducing: The New Zealand…, in reply to Russell Brown,
People will, however, queue up to tell their stories, and give their discographies and histories to Simon. Because he’s Simon, and he has the mana.
I've lost track of how many times this factor has been overlooked by the designers of public archives, especially digital ones.
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Hard News: Bishop Brian: It's worse than…, in reply to Peter grower,
Cult spotters basic 101 – A leader who has a direct line to ‘god’
Like the Pope?
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Up Front: Respectably-Dressed Sensible…, in reply to Kyle Matthews,
Being able to dress in a particular way and drink alcohol (and not be raped) are basic freedom of expression and movement rights, on top of the right not to be raped. We shouldn't deprive potential rape victims of the right to dress in ways that show off their body, or have too much to drink (or, be in their home with someone that they know) because there are rapists.
Hinemoana Baker linked yesterday to the famous Boys Beware film, the one that compares male homosexuality with smallpox. But it occurred to me that same producers also made a Girls Beware video, which is just as notable for how comparably less outrageous it seems, in that it frames a woman's safety with common sense measures to reduce risk, like the Lisa ad. Another way of reading that of course is that while perceptions of male homosexuality have changed a lot in the last half century, in the case of women and rape and safety... not so much.
So, topically: Girls Beware (1961).
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Hard News: Bishop Brian: It's worse than…, in reply to Susannah Shepherd,
I was raised a Presbyterian. I got the impression many in the church don't count anything pre-Knox as actually Christian...
That raises interesting theological problems re: Jesus.
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Hard News: Bishop Brian: It's worse than…, in reply to Susannah Shepherd,
I do recall telling the truth being quite high on the list of stuff good Christians were supposed to do
Er, uhm. Shall we go over the Donation of Constantin again?
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Hard News: Bishop Brian: It's worse than…, in reply to Russell Brown,
Destiny gets funding for church members' wages, then tithes the wages.
The Middle Ages could sue them for plagiarism.
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Up Front: Respectably-Dressed Sensible…, in reply to Tamara,
But I suspect that what you often saw was what looked like progressive parenting but was just lazy parenting!
No, I couldn't accuse the people I'm thinking of of being lazy, at all. They care about their kids just as much as my parents did or I do.
A lot of it comes down to modelling, as I've said. If I act considerately towards my children and other people, and they see me doing that with pleasure and satisfaction, then they will emulate that.
I think it's a wonderful sentiment but I just yet have to see it happen in practice. What I have seen a lot of is children without boundaries, with tremendously sensitive parents but no sense of the personhood of their peers. However it should be said that I speak from very bitter and painful personal experience, so, grain of salt and all that.
the approach with gentle parenting would be this: children naturally want to belong in the family and participate in its social life so if the mealtime is enjoyable and social then they will respond positively (in age appropriate ways).
With respect, that is a very normative statement. And not just because I'd like to see you try that approach on my autistic daughter. Kids in general differ widely on this. Our eldest son always naturally wanted to eat when we did, our youngest almost never does. We coerce him as gently as we can, but it's coercion nonetheles. Because ultimately family life has needs, as does creche life and later school life, and they dictate that sometimes you have to do a thing that is less immediately enjoyable than the other thing you were doing. And there is a lot of value in learning that, because it's one of the foundations of being social.
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Up Front: Respectably-Dressed Sensible…, in reply to Tamara,
But these even these little things all take away from a child's feeling of autonomy and control over their body. So imagine, a child who has been controlled even more than that is likely to internalise that kind of approach and treat other people the same way, once they have the power.
I'm a child of the seventies, so I saw quite a lot of progressive parenting. The kids who weren't made to brush their teeth? They were little shits, by and large. Big generalisation, I know, but I'd like to see some empirical proof that gentle households in fact equip their children to be with others in situations where, yes, sometimes you have to sit down when everybody else is sitting down, or eat while everyone else is eating.
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Up Front: Respectably-Dressed Sensible…, in reply to Russell Brown,
I knew that would happen. It is how it has always been spelled in my head ...
To be fair, it's mostly how people spell it in English. I just refuse to accept that a French word is being used to adjectivise an Italian city.
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Up Front: Respectably-Dressed Sensible…, in reply to Russell Brown,
I will go and purchase the ingredients I require for a delightful spaghetti bolognaise.
I hope you're intending to purchase the right consonants and vowels.