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Up Front: Life on Mars, in reply to
it is really shitty, isn’t it?
Quite the understatement! Like the sign on Dyers Rd at the moment that says "Earthquake Damage", which made me laugh. Imagine if we started signposting all the earthquake damage, the world doesn't have enough signs! And it's just about impossible to express in words just how annoying, depressing and frightening it can be, living here.
I hope things are OK at your place, Gregor.
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
It looks like friendship in action, from where I’m sitting.
Which must be on that nice couch. :-)
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
Borgism: “Good” members of Collective Noun X. must adopt position Y. on subject Z. or get smote with the waggling finger of bad consciousness.
Borgism! Thank you Craig, that is wonderful. Your word will be assimilated.
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
I also feel really bad that I appear to have turned Russell's post into a critique of feminist discourse
Guilty feet ain't got no rhythm.... :-)
[sorry, Bart!]
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There's a thing that can happen in internet forums more easily than in RL conversations, where everyone can talk about their own experience, and we can have a range of voices. It's when we start generalising or attempting to speak for others that it goes to custard, especially if we assume those others are like ourselves. This is one of the most maddening things that happens in the feminist blogosphere, where one feminist decides to speak on behalf of all feminists, or all women.
I've always liked the saying, "Everyone's a minority". As others have said, most of us are privileged in some ways but not in others. It's always worth thinking about how other people's perspectives might differ from our own, but unless we actually ask them what they think or how they feel, we can't know.
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
I’ve noticed that I only comment when people talk about lurkers – pretty sure this was the last time I commented, ooh, about 4 years ago. I’m the archetypal lurker. I’d offer myself as a research subject but I’m too busy lurking to answer any research questionnaires.
But what if someone really, really needed to know whether you are a cheap household shopper?
You said yourself, we don't click! :-)
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A load of old coddlers...
if anyone wishes to leave me some egg coddlers in their will, I'd be most grateful! Makes the egg unbelievably soft and delicate. Yum.
Colbert did a magnificent bit on neutral man’s burden a couple of years ago
Oh yes, the "things-I-have-learned bias". Genius.
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
No-one has ever ever ever used the p word. Ever.
Perhaps we could follow in the fine Morningside tradtion and call it "upsidedown-b". :-)
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
Actually, there’s a long-established pattern of people coming in a bit bristly then eventually getting the rhythm of the place and becoming highly valued contributors. Like you. And recordari.
Lilith, as I recall, came in to comment on Emma’s chronic fatigue syndrome, took a short while to get her bearings, and has been an excellent new voice.
Crikey, I go away for a couple of hours and then have all this reading to catch up on! You are all so clever and interesting. And cheers, Russell. :-)
Emma’s CFS thread got me fired up to join in, when I had felt rather daunted and self-conscious. It’s a subject with a lot of personal significance for me, and I’m aware I was rather aggressive about it at first. But it did slowly dawn on me that people were hearing what I had to say, even if not everyone agreed. And it’s so great to be heard, especially by so many people. So all you lurkers out there: it might be scary at first, but it’s so rewarding to be part of the conversation.
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Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to
I think there’s a lot of factors, and it’s not just feeling threatened by angry internet commentators
Sure, and a big factor with the comments sections on many sites is that all the other comments are silly, misinformed and/or pointlessly argumentative, so why would you even bother, regardless of what gender everyone is?
But I think there's also a critical mass thing. If I see a whole bunch of guys talking, I don't feel welcome to join in. If there's a discussion with plenty of female input, I do.