Posts by Emma Hart
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to George Darroch,
There’s also the interesting question of whether porn is giving younger people better information about sexual pleasure. While much of it is indeed bad and highly unrealistic, it isn’t an entirely static medium either, and I’ve heard it suggested that the focus has changed with the much wider uptake of porn through the internet. Again, I don’t know enough to do more than ask questions.
Dude, even back in the 80s, the only place I ever saw any acknowledgement that women could enjoy the sort of thing I enjoy was in porn.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to James Butler,
Physicists and engineers tend to measure signal level in negative dB, where 0dB means "AS LOUD AS IT GETS".
OIC. I was working from a hearing-impairment perspective. I now think I should just... (ironically and impossibly) quietly withdraw.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Russell Brown,
If we weren't all on our best behavior I'd have snickered at that.
See, I was looking at "the 3dB line" and thinking, man, anything under about 120dB and I'd say it wasn't working...
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Moz,
And Lucy, I'm sorry for assuming from your name that you're a woman. You being a man who prefers condoms over other contraception hadn't occurred to me until you said as much.
Moz, settle. Pretending you think Lucy was pretending to be a man is not helping anything. If you actually want to have the conversation, stop sabotaging it.
I know it's easier to just say "always use condoms" and pretend that that is all the information that people need.
Nobody said that. Seriously. Nobody said that.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,
I'd like to hear from gay people how it worked out for them - were there any glaring shortcomings? One that I can particularly see is that in any discussions, there would be pressure on anyone who had not come out, to not say a damned word, and make no inquiries. Kids at school can be really hard on gays.
A year later I was in a lesbian relationship with absolutely no idea how two women went about having sex. But the sex ed we got (what there was of it) didn't cover sex for pleasure. So no tips on how to perform oral sex for either gender.
What sex ed should be doing, IMO, and what the Family Planning program appears to at least be attempting, is making sure that kids of every gender and sexual orientation understand the mechanics of pleasure of every gender. Nobody's going to be harmed by knowing how to give head. You can't possibly know which kids are the non-straight non-vanilla ones, but it doesn't matter because EVERYONE benefits from exploring a broader idea of "sex".
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to James Butler,
My wife and I used condoms as our sole form of contraception for years, up until I had a vasectomy. She had solid reasons for not wanting to take the pill etc..
This was also true during my marriage. The pill made me incredibly ill - I lost a stone in six weeks - we didn't want kids yet, and we could get condoms on prescription. So yeah, every time we had penetrative sex in a (then) monogamous relationship, we used a condom. For years.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Russell Brown,
I’d also be interested in hearing from male readers who don’t suffer a loss of pleasure or function with condom use.
Yes, this please. I've had some remarks off-site, but that doesn't really help balance the discussion.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,
I've got no real opinion about mass education for the gay, though, that seems fraught.
Ben, can you explain this? I can't parse this remark in any way that doesn't make me picture mass gay brain-washing "Clockwork Orange" styles. Gay kids get their "mass" sex education at school, sitting next to straight kids.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Megan Wegan,
Is this why people think we’re weird?
That's not the word that comes after "people think we're", darling, and you know it.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Megan Wegan,
Oh, lordy. Emma? Can we get Lucy a pony too please?
As soon as I'm finished. We're going to think about the bibliographing for a bit first. Oh yeah.