Posts by Emma Hart
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,
It does seem that they just have different rules for monks and the laity. But that page needs a lot more citations before I really believe it.
Yeah, two of the basic tenets of Buddhism seem to me to be sex-negative, and "sexual misconduct" carries an essential concept of "right sex" and "wrong sex". It's disheartening but unsurprising that "wrong sex" is currently being defined by the leadership as utterly in line with the Abrahamic idea of "wrong sex".
That said, the difference with Buddhism is the disinterest in telling other people how to have sex.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Tom Beard,
May as well be hung for a sheep as for a lamb, you mean?
Pretty much, yeah.
(Not literally. At least not in the North Island.)
And you can bite me.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,
Buddhist don't seem to think that sex is a subject for their religion to stipulate about, although monks are traditionally chaste. Again, I expect this ambiguity means that the decisions about these things fall into the hands of the powerful.
Um...
Yes, hence Satanism. My only problem with it is that, like Atheism, it's forming itself in the shadow of Christianity, rather than just ignoring it.
There is nothing that makes Satanism not a religion. Also, atheism is what now?
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Tom Beard,
outside marriage you will BURN IN HELL, SINNERS!!!!"
Thing is, once you've done something that will, apparently, induce the Hell-burning, and it's not something you feel you could ever repent (like, same-sex attraction or the adultery that gained you your life partner) that ship has sailed, and you may as well go nuts.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Islander,
Yes & no: you all are – quite naturally – missing out on 1-2% of the human population who are -gasp- asexuals.
Yeah, I'm sticking by the statement that "everyone benefits from exploring a broader idea of sex". I don't mean just in their own personal sexual behaviour. I mean also by being more accepting of the different sexual practices of other people. Which would include being aware of and responsive to different levels of sex drive, right out to the extremes, and removing value judgements around the amount or kind of sex that anyone chooses to have.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to Lilith __,
so it was you who filled the internet with porn!! Impressive. ;-)
Now you can see why it appears I never get anything done. That's a big job.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to James Butler,
you have to use the resources available to assess whether you think it's going to be enjoyable or not
Once when she was doing a con, Renegade Evolution (prostitute, gonzo porn actor) was asked about anal. She said, it's a lot like yoga. It looks really painful. If you just try to leap straight into the position, so to speak, it's going to BE really painful. But if you know what you're doing, and you "warm up" properly first, then it can be (and here I am arguing against the idea that it never is, not advocating that it always is) intensely pleasurable. Now, porn isn't usually going to show you that process, but it doesn't never. Particularly BDSM porn seems to be better at 'context' than mainstream porn.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to BenWilson,
There was a brief phase of it. It didn't sell. People watch porn to have a fantasy, not watch something their teacher told them they should do.
Crashpad still do safe-sex porn. Porn is the only reason I know about dental dams.
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to James Butler,
I’ve seen it suggested that young people, girls especially, feel more pressured to say yes to sex acts which are common in porn but less likely to be pleasurable IRL, because their partner can find hundreds of porn examples in a second and say “Look, everyone does it!”
This is quite a common argument, to which I think it's pretty obvious to reply, "Wait, dude is pressuring you into something you don't want to do? Why the fuck does it matter where he got the idea? DTMFA."
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Up Front: It's Not Sex, and It's Not Education, in reply to James Butler,
I love it how your post wasn’t about porn to start with, but now it is.
For general reference, yes, I love what I've done to the internet.